On Becoming a Foster Parent – August

On Becoming a Foster Parent August marked the end of our first year together. I felt like we had grown a lot, but there is still so much to overcome. We are looking forward to finalizing an adoption, and along with that anticipation we have to face our fears. I chose an acrostic poem to summarize those emotions.…

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On Becoming a Foster Parent – July

On Becoming a Foster Parent In July, there was much anticipation, waiting, and relief. Projective Verse was the perfect vehicle of expression. July We          hold          our          breath Judge / Cuts / Ties We          wait          adoption  …

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On Becoming a Foster Parent – June

On Becoming a Foster Parent May might have been the eye of the storm, eerily calm and easy. But, June came with it’s whirlwinds and challenges of it’s own. The courts approved moving forward with adopting my daughter at the same time they approved visitations with bio mom in prison. It made no sense, and I couldn’t find…

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On Becoming a Foster Parent – May

On Becoming a Foster Parent May and Mother’s day is always a reflective time for adoptive parents. I knew I needed a poem that would reflect the hopes I had for my little one. I chose a fragile object, a dandelion seed, and gave it life—traveling through scary storms and landing in a soft place where it could…

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On Becoming a Foster Parent – March

On Becoming a Foster Parent By far, the most difficult month and poem to write was March. This was our turning point – the climax where our battle was at its peak. I chose a sonnet filled with war imagery to represent this change in our relationship. From here on out, the poems take on a new emotion…

Foster Parent February

On Becoming a Foster Parent – February

On Becoming a Foster Parent February was the month of ignoring bad behavior and focusing only on the good. Naturally, a calligram was in order. I started with the sentence, “I can’t hear you when you’re yelling,” and took one word away as the tantrums became less and less effective. Then as I tried to design the poem…

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On Becoming a Foster Parent – January

On Becoming a Foster Parent Exhaustion sets in after the holidays. January was my month of letting things go, letting my house get messy, saying no to obligations, and trying to see the humor in the tantrums. My foster daughter turned two in January, so I decided a couplet was the answer. January The one who claims two…

Foster Parent December

On Becoming a Foster Parent – December Poem

On Becoming a Foster Parent Christmastime rolled around, and along with it came a sense of sadness for my foster daughter’s biological mom. I tried to see her as she was, and tried to imagine where her mother was and how she was feeling. I wrote her a letter, then discarded it because at that time I…

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On Becoming a Foster Parent – November Poem

On Becoming a Foster Parent If you are considering becoming a foster parent, don’t let these poems scare you. It really wasn’t as terrible as it sounds, but I definitely had some emotional setbacks before feeling the joy and rewards of such a job. At this point, I am extremely thankful to have had the…

Foster Parent October

On Becoming a Foster Parent – October Poem

On Becoming a Foster Parent By October, the honeymoon was over. Our new foster daughter threw tantrums every five minutes the entire time she was awake for four straight weeks. There wasn’t one day that I didn’t want to give up. There wasn’t an hour that went by that I hadn’t shut myself in the closet to…